Resilience isn’t about pretending you’re fine or never feeling pain—it’s about learning how to act in your best interest despite the pain. In this episode of Solved, we dive deep into the science, psychology, and real-life examples of resilience—from Ernest Shackleton’s crew surviving two years stranded in Antarctica to my own slightly insane decision to run an endurance race with basically no training. Spoiler: I didn’t die.
We cover it all: the biology of resilience, why some people are “dandelions” and thrive anywhere while others are “orchids” who need the right environment, the mindsets that let you push through hardship without losing your mind, and why humor and community might secretly be your best survival tools. And of course, we deliver the real, practical, evidence-based strategies you can actually apply when life inevitably decides to kick you in the teeth.
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, stuck, or like you can’t take one more setback, this episode is for you. And if you’re one of those psychos who enjoys doing hard sh*t just to see what you’re made of… well, you’ll feel right at home here.
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Chapters:
00:00 Introduction
04:44 Chapter 1: Reframing Resilience — Definitions & Misconceptions
13:11 The Word That Started It All
16:30 Bounce Forward, Not Back
23:50 Chapter 2: Developmental and Biological Foundations of Resilience
29:26 The Evolutionary Puzzle
38:54 Chapter 3: Biological & Physiological Foundations
44:45 Training Your Brain to Be More Resilient
48:43 The HPA Axis: Our Central Stress Response System
51:19 Heart Rate Variability: The Resilience Rhythm
54:32 Physiological Interventions
1:00:07 Gut-Brain Axis
1:17:17 Chapter 4: Psychological, Philosophical & Evidence-Based Frameworks
1:20:19 The 5 Mindsets of Resilience
1:21:46 Mindset #1: Anything Is Possible
1:38:22 Mindset #2: Stories Are Just Stories
1:44:16 MIndset #3: Focus on What You Control
1:58:55 Mindset #4: Make It Fun
2:10:34 Mindset #5: Assume a Resilient Identity
2:20:21 Pheidippides
2:27:00 Chapter 5: Sociocultural & Community Dimensions
2:37:40 Social Connection and Resilience: Why Strong People Don't Go It Alone
2:45:33 Blitz Spirit: Myth vs Reality
2:48:23 How to Build Your Resilient Circle
2:57:28 Chapter 6: The 80/20 of Becoming More Resilient
3:11:36 The Hidden Costs of Resilience
3:22:25 What We Learned
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