After handling 2,000+ divorces over 25 years, the legendary divorce attorney James Sexton has seen it all: the affairs that start with attention instead of sex, the gestures that can end marriages, and the brutal truth that 53% of marriages end in divorce. In this raw, unfiltered conversation, James breaks down why half of all marriages fail and what the other half is doing right.
From the real reason people cheat, to why Instagram is an infidelity-generating machine, James reveals the patterns that predict divorce with scary accuracy. We dive into the economics of relationships, why prenups are actually love letters, and how a dog can teach you more about marriage than any therapist. He shares the craziest prenup he's ever seen (10 pounds = $10,000 less in alimony), why "happy wife, happy life" is terrible advice, and the one question that softens even the most bitter couples.
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00:00:00 Introduction
00:01:51 Is Marriage Still Worth It? The Lottery Analogy
00:04:48 The 86% Remarriage Rate and Second Marriage Energy
00:05:53 Red Flags: How to Spot a Marriage Heading for Divorce
00:07:55 The Throw Pillow Test: Small Gestures That Say I Love You
00:12:50 The Weaponization of Intimacy: Why You Can't Take It Back
00:15:31 Dogs, Love, and the Bravery of Accepting Loss
00:18:48 Why James Isn't Jaded: Staying Romantic After 2,000 Divorces
00:23:42 People Stop Doing the Things That Kept Love Alive
00:24:41 The Two Biggest Problems: Not Knowing What You Want and Can't Express It
00:30:50 The Shaving Story: Positive Reinforcement vs. Criticism
00:33:28 Flowers and Nudes: Understanding What Your Partner Actually Wants
00:39:20 How Affairs Really Start: It's Never About the Sex
00:41:10 Instagram: The Infidelity Generating Machine
00:52:20 Prenups: Everyone Has One, Either Yours or the Government's
00:58:28 The Craziest Prenup: Ten Pounds Equals Ten Thousand Dollars
00:57:21 Democratizing Prenups: Making Marriage Contracts Accessible
01:03:54 Premarital Education: The Barrier to Entry Marriage Needs
01:23:35 Everyone's Sleeping With the Nanny: The Real Reason Why
01:10:34 The Weapon Analogy: Being a Divorce Lawyer and Believing in Justice
01:17:01 Poetry, Beauty, and Crying at Your Son's Wedding
01:19:36 Final Thoughts: Who Should Read This Book and Why
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